Sunday 19 October 2014
19. Norman, Josephine and Whatshername!
Mum in a pleasant positive mood today !" How's Norman she asked? " Ï don't know anybody called Norman" , Did she mean Bob? " And how's Josephine?"even more obscure and then she resorted to Whatshername? Robyn maybe. Made a cup of tea and the conversation continued along these lines but left feeling more positive.
However the next day when we were at bridge she escaped. Down to the highway and across it with her frame apparently holding up traffic! Oh Dear. Sure they will not want to run the risk of this happening again so guess that next week they will be moving her to the lockable unit.
When we visited today she told us along story that they had been held hostage and in order to escape she had had to hand over her ring. We think that was because they had kept her the rest of the day in the locked unit. Its a sad scenario but there are are some funny bits but have every sympathy that it is not funny for her and we all wished she had been spared ending up in this situation
Tuesday 14 October 2014
18. Six weeks on
The first two weeks are the worst I was told, but I can tell you that is not true. Six weeks on and Mum has been truly dreadful. It began on Sunday when I got a call at two in the afternoon that they couldn't settle her. She was being disruptive, going into other peoples rooms and was wanting to go ! I said I was coming in anyway so went abit earlier and sat with her for three hours when she never stopped talking once mostly rubbish going back to Hailsham Road her childhood home in Liverpool which she wanted to sell , followed by all her real estate philosophy as to how it was better to let the place go cheap to get rid of it.I sat there and made few comments.I did say to the nurse on duty that I wondered if the medication they were giving her was hyping her up as she never paused for breath.
Monday I did not go but got a call from the lovely Mark. "This is not an urgent phone call"he said but I was pretty sure that it was to say she would be better downstairs in the dementia unit. Tuesday (today) I went in taking some nice afternoon tea and found her sitting asleep in the corner sitting area. I did not wake her but when she did awake we went and had our cup of tea. From then onwards she put on an Oscar winning performance about not staying and how I had turned against her etc which of course I took no notice of. "She only wanted a quiet life "she said "Well you can have that here"I said but of course it did not placate her, infact anything I said produced more and more fury and tears so that in the end I felt she was just doing it all because she had an audience Me! So I said "I seemed to be upsetting her so I would go and hope she was more cheerful the next time I came"
Bob is investigating a cruise holiday out of Fremantle and I must say I feel it may be a good thing, perhaps she will settle down but I could do with a psychologist to tell me how to handle these difficult behaviours. No it is not pleasant to see her upset like this ,but it is really of her own making.
Monday I did not go but got a call from the lovely Mark. "This is not an urgent phone call"he said but I was pretty sure that it was to say she would be better downstairs in the dementia unit. Tuesday (today) I went in taking some nice afternoon tea and found her sitting asleep in the corner sitting area. I did not wake her but when she did awake we went and had our cup of tea. From then onwards she put on an Oscar winning performance about not staying and how I had turned against her etc which of course I took no notice of. "She only wanted a quiet life "she said "Well you can have that here"I said but of course it did not placate her, infact anything I said produced more and more fury and tears so that in the end I felt she was just doing it all because she had an audience Me! So I said "I seemed to be upsetting her so I would go and hope she was more cheerful the next time I came"
Bob is investigating a cruise holiday out of Fremantle and I must say I feel it may be a good thing, perhaps she will settle down but I could do with a psychologist to tell me how to handle these difficult behaviours. No it is not pleasant to see her upset like this ,but it is really of her own making.
17. First outing
After Mum had been in Braemar four weeks I thought I might see how she coped with going out.I couldn't manage a Wednesday but went on Thursday to see if she would like to go out. She asked what day it was and then said Yes she would like to go out on the next Wednesday, so the next Wednesday I fronted up again. She managed the walk to the car.
We decided on Garden city as she had been asking the staff on a daily basis how she could get there.Parking was difficult, She was noticeably more frail than the last time we had attempted it. We got a table at Miss Maud's and I chose what I thought she would like Spinach Crepe. She ate every mouthful,then coffee and a lemon tart.then back to the car.
All the conversation had been about how she could get home from the facility, she was worried I wouldn't know where she was, the girl last night had told her to stay because it was safer for her even though she'd offered to pay the petrol, and when it was time to get on the plane she wasn't on it, and her friend Robyn had also refused to take her home. That is how the conversation went. "But Mum" I said "this is now your home and of course I know where you are" So I was a little apprehensive about whether she would happily go back but luckily she did. "Was it worth all the Effort?" I said "Well it is nice to get out " she said so I suppose it was!
We decided on Garden city as she had been asking the staff on a daily basis how she could get there.Parking was difficult, She was noticeably more frail than the last time we had attempted it. We got a table at Miss Maud's and I chose what I thought she would like Spinach Crepe. She ate every mouthful,then coffee and a lemon tart.then back to the car.
All the conversation had been about how she could get home from the facility, she was worried I wouldn't know where she was, the girl last night had told her to stay because it was safer for her even though she'd offered to pay the petrol, and when it was time to get on the plane she wasn't on it, and her friend Robyn had also refused to take her home. That is how the conversation went. "But Mum" I said "this is now your home and of course I know where you are" So I was a little apprehensive about whether she would happily go back but luckily she did. "Was it worth all the Effort?" I said "Well it is nice to get out " she said so I suppose it was!
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